There won’t be any story in this article. On the contrary, it will be is fraught with unadulterated, raw facts.
A friend from Calcutta (whom I will call Aastha) sent me the handwriting sample of her boyfriend. I was not judgmental about the guy.
On the basis of his handwriting, I made a few few points about him. Most were red signs. But my dear friend did not see them. She continued in this relationship.
A few weeks later, Aastha knew the truth. She wrote to me an email, elaborating all the points I had made about him. They have now broken up. So, without beating about the bush, let’s jump right into it.
Aastha: Well it started as a game and it ended as a game! At the end I could just marvel and say—What a player!?! and I just wished I had given more heed to significant hints that came my way. Smooth talker, he went ‘by the book’ – gave me attention, showed care, isolated me, revealed the side of him that projected him as him vulnerable, pretended he is extremely protective about me, kept the mystery going about him and one day, BANG… !
My point: He is quite temperamental, though initially he had projected himself as a chilled-out person. (See his handwriting sample) [shown by flying t-bars]
Aashta: Various episodes of our fighting.. volume use to go out of control, Got to see it a little later, once we were ‘together’. It was different from how he projected himself initially as cool, calm, composed, reflective etc etc..
My point: He will manipulate things and lie too much in order to turn things in his favour. [shown by huge lower zone, pointed m’s and n’s]
Aashta: Well almost everything will qualify for this – him earning lot of money in England after college, able to buy a flat in Gurgaon, then that being being doused down by Gujjars, then his bank account being hacked and all his money siphoned off. Girls falling all over him but he never paying to heed to them , being a virgin, projecting family image, committed nature and staging entire family to get that effect together.
My point: He is very romantic. [huge imagination shown by loopy writing]
Aastha: Passionate sweet nothings when in the right mood.. believe me any girl would fall for it!! He took me out for dinner once when he got a call for pitching project to celebrate. That was pretty nice! but obviously it depended on the mood too.
My point: He is dominating [shown by large signature – (not given here to ensure privacy)].
Aastha: It took me time to figure out but he would generally decide when we will talk, whether we will go out, meet up etc etc. Would force me to not drink, smoke etc etc (of course by telling me that he cares for me etc etc).
My point: He is too possessive. [low t-bars, right slant]
Aastha: In the first few meetings he made it clear that he is possessive and he would like his gf to be possessive about him but ‘in a sane manner’ eg don’t want anyone to lech at you, touch you etc etc.. will get into fist fight if he saw it. would comments on my clothes.
My point: He is much too dramatic while spinning lies. [right slant, pointed m’s and n’s and huge lower loops] I wrote another article on guys like him. Read here.
Aastha: He always had some ‘big’ excuse ready – for eg – (ME – why did you not call me back after you finished your work around 1 am, HIM – because I accidentally hit the bed, and rushed to nursing home at night, got knee hairline fracture! ME – Why did you not call me today in the evening as planned, HIM – my uncle was murdered! ME – Weren’t you suppose to pick me up in the morning to drop me off at the station, HIM – Was in the hospital, was puking all night with drops of blood!!
My point: He is terribly confused about what he wants to do and he has got many things going on in his life at the same time. [loops in the left side of ovals and bouncy baseline]
Aastha: Looks like. Because he is quite old (29 yrs) and still figuring out what he wants to do.. apparently he hopped from Software engineering to architecture (supposedly) to drumming… may be also about the kind of life partner he wants, the girl he wants to be with.
My point: He is too restless to be stable in any relationship. [inflated lower zone]
Aastha: constantly noticed him fiddle with his thumb and forefinger, moving around and not be at one place for long time. I think he was manipulative so he was restless.
As long as we are talking, it’s alright… if I get a call.. he would start walking aound, or also pretend to call someone. If we are in a group and I don’t give attn, he would pretend to be on phone and go almost 20 mts away to talk on the phone.
My point: Aastha and the guy had same emotional make up. (Mind you, I said emotional makeup. Not traits or attitude.)
Aastha: Vishwas, you explain me this pls.
Here it my explanation: Emotional makeup refers to the way a person reacts in particular situation. For example, if my friend and I both get irritated and start abusing in a traffic jam, we are of the same emotional makeup. But if another friend who just sits quiet and waits for the traffic jam to be over has a different emotional outlay.
I said that Aastha and the guy were of the same emotional makeup because they responded to a situation in a similar way. For example, when they were in the process of breaking up, she wrote a scathing email to him. In return, he wrote an equally harsh email to her. Hope I have made myself clear, Aastha.
My point: He was too childish. [circled i-dots]
Aastha: His arguments in our fights would rarely make sense to me… and they would come out of nowhere.. it would lack reason and would mostly be logically inconsistent… and the underlying tone would always be to get back… (ME – we are late for the movie, we cant go now.. BRT would be difficult to cross in 15 min- HIM: YEAH, MAYBE ACCORDING TO YOUR DRIVING STANDARDS!?!, then.. learn from your friends how to talk, etc etc that will actually have no significance or relation to ongoing conversation). He would suddenly go quiet if he is not heard or if he does not get attention.
My point: He was too egoist. [large capitals and large signature]
Aastha: He would never call back even though he would hang up in a fight. even though I was in hospital, had an operation etc etc. Did not give me his phone when I asked him.
My point: Physically, he was very demanding. Want a lot of company, sex etc. [again lower loops]
Aastha: He’d push to go here & there, exaggerated physical & material needs – guess I have told you about it.
My point: He is a grasshopper and careless. [lower loops and circled i-dots]
Aastha: promised lot of things but no delivery. said you are one nice, innocent girl who deserves to be taken care of, but even though I went through one of the difficult times as far as my health is concerned, I hardly saw him helping me out.. He would come home and just sit… I would only be getting myself stuff, medicine. He told me he will take me to doctor for check up and then same evening his uncle got “murdered”. Even though he took me to hospital, i later realised throughout while I was lying alone in emergency, he was talking on the phone outside. and he took me only when I cud not bear the pain anymore and broke down.
My point: He was depressed. [descending baseline]
Aastha: I assumed was because of his flat being doused down by Gujjars but now I don’t know, may be no one is buying his stories anymore that’s why!!
My point: He had had bad experiences as child. [angular personal pronoun I]
Aastha: I did ask him but he said he did not remember anything like that. Though cause of constant family interactions I find his brother more sought after and taken care of.
Disclaimer: One element of handwriting may be analysed at a time, but always look at the entire handwriting sample before arriving at any conclusion.
