Most of us feel insecure sometimes, but some of us feel insecure most of the time. If you also feel short on confidence and believe that you do not deserve to get lasting love, read on.
It’s not difficult to find people around us who feel low about themselves. For example, I know people who just want to stay put at home, scared of stepping out and meeting people because they feel they do not have anything valuable to offer. They think they are overweight, boring, stupid, or ugly.
Who’s to blame?
There’re also some accomplished and talented people around us who feel they do not deserve the accolades sent their way. They feel their accomplishments are not real and other people really don’t value them much. In short, they are filled with diffidence.
The feeling of self-doubt often owes its existence to the the kind of childhood you had, past traumas, experiences of failure or rejection, loneliness, negative beliefs about yourself or perfectionism. Sometimes, a critical parent or partner can also give birth to the feelings of insecurity.
5 Handwriting Indicators of Insecurity
According to handwriting analysis, your handwriting could reveal if you feel insecure. Here are the five things you should look for in handwriting to understand if the writer has some deep fears.
1. Light Handwriting Pressure
Someone with very light handwriting pressure is extremely fearful when faced with unfamiliar situations or people. The writer’s self-image is based on other people’s opinion of him, and it needs constant reinforcement through continued approval. If acknowledgement from others does not come, or if he is criticized, or his self-esteem drops sharply and he starts feeling apprehensive and tense.
2. Narrow Width of Oval Letters
Recurrence of narrow oval letters, such as ‘o’ and ‘a’, in handwriting indicates the writer’s inability to open up to others. Such writers take time to familiarise themselves with the surroundings, and seek acknowledgement from others. They are more likely to deal with small areas than large, especially when it comes to responsibility, authority and decisions.
3. I-dots Close to Stem
I-dots closer to the stem points to the writer’s insecurity
A writer placing i-dots close to the stem all the time is extremely self-conscious and timid. He magnifies his own own limitations in his head and becomes unduly concerned about them, creating unnecessary mental barriers. Because of that, he also tries to restrict his field of social activity, and limits his relationships to those with whom he is familiar.
4. Short Length of Lower Zone
The short length of the lower zone letters (y and g) points to the writer’s lack of energy and enthusiasm. The writer is afraid to volunteer ideas, even when he knows that they are worthwhile. In fact, he shows more eagerness to hear what other people are saying than to speak himself. He doubts his ability to lead and hesitates to assume leadership in any situation.
5. Narrow Width of Middle Zone
Narrow middle zone points to the writer’s insecurity
Narrow middle zone shows that the writer takes a long time to ease into a group or situation. He lacks the courage to make possible advances. In order to avoid being in limelight, he remains in a more confined area. The writer starts bring extra careful and vigilant even in situations that do not require it. Due to the overburdening of mental activity, the writer unknowingly creates a sense of distance and social isolation.
According to handwriting analysis, if the middle zone is dwarfed by the upper zone and lower zone, the writer in general tends to underrate himself and suffer from inferiority feelings. He finds little joy in daily life and prefers not to cope with its problems.
Disclaimer: One element of handwriting may be analysed at a time, but always look at the entire handwriting sample before arriving at any conclusion.
