I have the fear of intimacy. So, let me play with your heart a bit…
It’s often said that when a young man complains that a young lady has no heart, it’s pretty certain she has his. Raj realised the same about his friend George when we met last week.
“Rohini is heartless,” George said in a deep voice about the girl he liked.
Raj instantly manufactured seriousness on his face to get my stoic friend to decongest his heart.
“It’s been a month since I’ve been asking her out. I sent her SMSes and also messages through a common friend. But she doesn’t reply. I communicated to her that if she says no, I’ll never bother her. But she just keeps quiet. The other day when I called her up, she agreed to meet, but didn’t turn up on time. I don’t know if I should move on, because she hasn’t yet turned me down….”
Romantic proposals usually meet with a yes or a no, but George was terribly upset because he got neither. His annoyance was awful because he hated to wait endlessly, shown by his angular handwriting with right slant.
Angular handwriting with right slant
One might wonder why Rohini was not giving him a clear answer to his proposal. I guessed three possible reasons:
First, she’s waiting for Sun and Moon to marry and go on honeymoon; second, Sherlock Holmes’s grandson whom she has hired to find if George is a paedophile or a psycho is yet to submit his report; and third, she may have what handwriting analysts call the fear of intimacy.
Fear of intimacy
Several factors in a handwriting sample reflect one’s fear of intimacy, such as wide word spacing, a certain left slant, print writing and more importantly, the lack-of-trust ‘y’.
Narrow lower loops indicate the writer’s fear of intimacy
The thin loop in the letter indicates less mental investment in relationships. Usually someone who writes y’s like this is disinclined to let people inside her heart possibly because she just got out of a bad relationship.
According to handwriting analysis, if this stroke coexists with light pressure and lack of margins, the writer feels no need to get involved in relationships and has no time for others.
Raj didn’t know if Rohini dreaded intimacy or was too busy to reply, but he told George not to be judgmental about her because he didn’t know whether she had genuine reasons to remain unresponsive.
It’s possible that her reply to a similar proposal in the past kicked off an abusive relationship, giving birth to the fear of intimacy.
The fear of intimacy can also stem from several other causes, including certain childhood experiences such as a history of abuse or neglect, but many other experiences and factors may contribute to this fear. In other words, fears of abandonment, pain and loss are at the heart of the fear of intimacy for many people.
Final words
According to verywellmind.com, people with the fear of intimacy experience this fear do not usually wish to avoid intimacy, and may even long for closeness, but frequently push others away or even sabotage relationships.
So, if you write your y’s like this and you have the fear of intimacy, open it up a bit using a suitable graphotherapy to let others into your world. You’ll feel more relaxed and less uptight.
Disclaimer: One element of handwriting may be analysed at a time, but always look at the entire handwriting sample before arriving at any conclusion.
