“What would you do if your child does not listen to you?” a friend of 11 years once asked me when we met one evening in January 2020.
“It’s a tricky question. I don’t have a child to know the answer to that question,” I replied.
“What should I do?” she fired back.
I realised she was talking about her 15-year-old daughter, Anvi (name changed).
“Talk to her…” I said.
“You think I don’t?” she said, glowering at me.
“I’m sure you do. What exactly is happening with Anvi?”
“As I said, she does not listen to me. She seems to be listening only to her weird friends. In fact, listening to just one weird friend in particular. She has become her die-hard follower and she imitates her in pretty much everything.”
“I don’t see a problem here. To me, she sounds like a normal teenager… unless you have something specific to say…”
“Using foul language, for starters. Insisting on certain types of clothes, bunking a certain class more often along with her friend who finds the teacher extremely boring…”
“You seem to have a real problem at hand,” I said.
Parents need to be alert and check their child’s handwriting from time to time.
“I wish you could hear the way she once drew a pompous portrait of her new pal. The other day she was insisting on buying a piano. Where the hell do I keep a piano in a Mumbai flat? In fact, a couple of years ago, she had idolised another friend’s elder sister who was a big influence on her for a good amount of time…”
This conversation went on for some more time where my friend disclosed many other things about Anvi, which I am not at liberty to write here.
But it was clear that the young girl was highly influenced by other people, and my dear friend, like many parents, was worried that her daughter was being led astray.
Parents’ Worry
The kind of company your child keeps has a major influence on his behaviour and personality, and it’s a challenge for parents to secure their children from falling into bad company.
Parents know that if they do not keep their child from bad company, it might not only hamper the growth of positive things in him, but also jeopardise his future.
Child’s handwriting: If parents do not keep their child from bad company, it might hamper the growth of positive things in him.
It’s a fact that most parents are hyper-intuitive when it comes to their child, and as soon as they realise the child is gravitating towards trouble, they start scanning his friends to look for a possible suspect who seems to be “capable of exerting negative influence”.
This approach is perfectly fine. But it is also seen in many cases that parents resort to mistakenly blaming their child’s friends for anything they do not like in him. They tend to form opinions about teens on the basis of their appearances — the funky hair, unconventional dressing, body piercing or tattoos.
These idiosyncratic sartorial or make-up choices are often associated with undesirable behaviour, which unfairly earn them the title of mischief-makers.
Clues in your child’s handwriting
As a parent, you may have noticed that a simple Google search on “what to do if your child is in bad company” will throw up hundreds of well-meaning suggestions.
While there is nothing wrong in exploring the Internet to find solution to a problem as pressing as this, I advise that simultaneously you also look at your child’s handwriting to discover whether you should be extra watchful of the company he keeps.
This handwriting feature I am talking about is large loops in the upper zone of letters such as lower case L and H.
Large loops in your child’s handwriting mean he is prone to getting excessively influenced by the people he interacts with
These extreme large loops appearing in the upper zone of the handwriting indicate that the writer is way too open to accepting various ideas and philosophies of those around him, without feeling the need to filter or reject them.
When such large loops are found in the handwriting of young, vulnerable minds, it means they are prone to getting unduly and excessively influenced by the people they interact with.
Therefore, if your child’s handwriting has these large loops appearing in the upper zone, you may want to pay extra attention to the kind of company he or she keeps.
According to handwriting analysis, this handwriting feature indicates that the child has opened himself up to overly accepting the ideas and beliefs of other people. Anvi, my friend’s daughter, also did the same because of the large loops in the upper zone of her handwriting.
This large loop in a child’s handwriting may not necessarily be a bad thing in itself if your child is lucky enough to have all good friends. But if the company is flawed or toxic, you may soon have an intractable child at hand who, in all likelihood, is going to give you a great deal of grief.
Let us know through WhatsApp or the comment box below whether you found something like this in your child’s handwriting.
Also, you may want to check out how changes in your child’s handwriting can help him improve his concentration.
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Disclaimer: One element of handwriting may be analysed at a time, but always look at the entire handwriting sample before arriving at any conclusion.
